She knows you are married but then it is an indication that you are able and responsible. She does not want to be your second or third wife, so there is no intention of breaking your home if you play your cards right but by the time she is done warming her way into your life, there might be nothing left of your so called home. She knows what she wants and would never hesitate to spell it out per time so you have the benefit of adjusting your moves and plans to accommodate her. The biggest mistake you can make is to fall in love or have any feelings for her especially because you may just be one of her numerous clients and for her, it is business and nothing personal. She is often elegant and somewhat intelligent. An entrepreneur extraordinaire and not your run-of-the-mill street hooker that can be bought for two a penny. Her factory gives you your money’s worth and even much more if you appear promising. Everything your wife could and could not do. Even her day job (if she has one) pays just a fraction of her factory income; an income oftentimes big enough to support a side business that serves as the face of her swanky lifestyle. She is not your typical Delilah with the PhD (pull him down at all cost) syndrome especially because your liquidity ensures her continued stay in business but the evil she subtly perpetrates is aptly described in Proverbs 6.
“20 My son, obey your father’s commands, and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction. 21 Keep their words always in your heart. Tie them around your neck. 22 When you walk, their counsel will lead you. When you sleep, they will protect you. When you wake up, they will advise you. 33 For their command is a lamp and their instruction a light; their corrective discipline is the way to life. 24 It will keep you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman. 25 Don’t lust for her beauty. Don’t let her coy glances seduce you. 26 For a prostitute will bring you to poverty, but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life. 27 Can a man scoop a flame into his lap and not have his clothes catch on fire? 28 Can he walk on hot coals and not blister his feet? 29 So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife. He who embraces her will not go unpunished. 30 Excuses might be found for a thief who steals because he is starving. 31 But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole, even if he has to sell everything in his house. 32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself. 33 He will be wounded and disgraced. His shame will never be erased.” [NLT]
You get to a point in your life where you think the grass on the other side is greener and you have inadvertently or deliberately refused to be responsible for building your home. You heap all the blame for the wreck on your wife and took the seemingly easy way out. You find comfort in the arms of the modern mistress hoping to eat your cake and still have it, and then the gradual descent down the immoral valley. Of course, ‘stolen waters’ are very sweet, so your head start to spin as you go the downward slide to self destruction. She is fire to your bossom; the destructive end to that seemingly right way and by the time you realize how far gone you are, you would have lost much more than you can imagine. Shattered homes, broken hearts and even the supposed comfort becomes your albatross. You get caught in the web of your own irresponsibility and retracing your steps might be so much harder especially when emotions had been traded and your feet blistered. God is usually the only one that can salvage the irreparable damage at that point, so rather than sending yourself back to square one and wishing you had never met her, take responsibility and take charge of your marriage, for by wisdom, a home is built and it takes a great deal of diligent hardwork to reap marital bliss!