No man is an island. God declared after creating man that his being alone is bad and had to fashion out a suitable companion for him. Even Jesus Christ had the twelve disciples as His closest companion while on earth. I often tell people that we cannot exist without each other. We all are products of the varying influences that have been and those that are still active in our lives. “Show me your friend and I’ll tell you the kind of person you are” is one popular cliché that truly depict our being the sum total of these influences, which could be by the books we read, the friends we keep and the multitude of counsels that permeate our lives.
However, living a great life depends on our being able to effectively ensure our lives are filled with things and people that have positive impact on us, either by what they deposit into ours or what we deposit into theirs. Jim Collins in his classic bestseller ‘Good To Great’ asserted that “For no matter what we achieve, if we don’t spend the vast majority of our time with people we love and respect, we cannot possibly have a great life. But if we spend the vast majority of our time with people we love and respect (people we really enjoy being on the bus with and who will never disappoint us), then we will almost certainly have a great life, no matter where the bus goes.” The positive energy you derive from surrounding yourself with great people will keep your creative juices flowing and drive you towards maximizing your potentials. Spending too much time with those that do not genuinely care about you will not just be a burden on your emotions, it will also drain your creative prowess and consequently make you an under-achiever.
In life, change is inevitable. As we grow older, our values are refined and in some cases re-defined. We face challenges and circumstances reveal our true self. These oftentimes also serve as filters that differentiate and reveal the true characters of those surrounding us too. Our dynamic nature therefore require us to constantly re-evaluate ourselves and the company we keep so as to ensure our lives are in tune with our ideals and ultimate life goals. These checks and balances would enable us to properly monitor and steer our time, energy and resources towards enjoying our everyday life and ultimately fulfilling destiny. Constant re-evaluation would also help rid our lives of everything that impart us negatively and whatever could in any way hamper our overall positive development.