I met a friend I’ve not seen in a very long time today. Actually the last time I saw her was seven years ago. She happens to be the prettiest in my faculty then. At least, she won the faculty beauty pageant so I could not have been the only one that adjudged her as the prettiest. Anyway, seeing her again after a long while especially how changed she had become really got me thinking.

Well, it wasn’t like she had turned ugly overnight or looked haggard but her beauty is so much of a shadow of its old self that you’ll hardly believe she was the same lady that was the talk of the campus then. It really got me wondering about how fast beauty fades especially for women. They blossomed in their teenage years and by the time they are in their twenties, they are all ripe, mature and looking radiant. It’s at some point in their thirties for most women that the realization that so much has faded about their beauty eventually dawns especially if they are married. The changes varies for different women but weight gain seems to be the most common even for those that still remain single.

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised” [Proverbs 31:30] was the scripture that came to my mind as I lay wondering about what true beauty is. It’s not surprising how often people don’t care about how good looking you are after you are married but care so much about your character. A woman who fears the Lord would do all within her means to be the Proverbs 31:10-31 woman. She would realize how passing physical beauty can be and would ensure the strength of her beauty lies in her character. She would take good care of, guard her body and her heart with all diligence. She would spend her pre-marriage years preparing for her role as a perfect helpmeet and virtuous mother, knowing fully well that her actions and decisions are seeds into her future. She would know there’s more to her worth than her looks and so develop herself from inside out. As a man, when you find such woman, you can be sure you’ve found a good thing and you’re so highly favoured!